Family scapegoats with years of healing: what events or thou...

The most important things to realize:

Recognizing the darkness in yourself allows you to see it very clearly in others. A narcissist is consumed with darkness. That is: deceit, sadism, and ego.

They don't love you.

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When you recognize your own darkness, you will see it in them, and see them for who they actually are as people. Then it will become easy to drop them from your life.

In that sense, acceptance is strongly related to building awareness.

You’ll know you've reached full acceptance when you receive a hoover and send it straight to spam/trash without an emotional reaction, or a second thought about it.

I am 26 now. I have wasted my 4 years of my life on government job preparation. I had put all my effort to get a job, but did not succeed. What should I do now?

You don't owe them anything.

Your life is better in every single way without them.

You will never be enough no matter what you do. At best, they will make backhanded compliments or just ignore you.

Republican Trump is a billionaire, president, won't be held accountable for multiple felonies, and pretty much has whatever he wants. So why is he always whining and crying about stupid, pointless stuff? Is he incapable of happiness?

They enjoy hurting you.

The family's “in group” do not have intimate relationships. They are transactional and look down on each other. In other words, you aren't missing anything.

Family scapegoats with years of healing: what events or thoughts precipitated your full acceptance of your family's narcissistic dynamic? Can you share your inner thoughts as you reached it? How do we know when we have reached full acceptance?

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